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Watching this I wanted to both laugh and cry. Truly sad and comical.
I,think this is rediculous! Am currently a Mormon and I am gonna wear what the hell I want. No one tells me how to dress. I think I’lll go get a tat😬
Loved this video – so many times I wish I had stood up and called out the “authority” on something like this. I remember thinking something similar with the “no more than one earring” stipulation. Thank you for posting this. 😀 Made me smile today.
All religions are false beliefs founded on unprovable premises, but the cult of Mormonism is among the worst.
Monday night, I got a visit from my home teachers, one of whom was the itotrucnsr who gave this lesson. He also happened to be the one who gave the home teaching lesson they prepared for me. He shared his insights from Elder Faust’s talk published in the recent Ensign on making “every single one” feel welcome at Church. I was deeply touched by what he had to say.I was actually able to open up and talk about my experience in elders quorum, and share my testimony. They listened attentively and were very affirming and supportive. Then we prayed together. I felt so grateful, after they left I went up to my room and wept – this time definitely tears of joy. It was amazing to me how totally healing just that simple moment of listening was to me. None of the pain was left, I just felt totally happy and totally willing to accept that situation as one more opportunity for me to learn more about myself and my relationship with God.I realize that a lot of people are struggling to make sense of the seeming disjunction between the experience of gay folks and the Church’s position on homosexuality. I also realize that the Church is filled with very good, compassionate people whose relationship with God and the Spirit is showing them how to respond to situations like my own in remarkable ways. I guess I realize, all I need is for us to continue in this road together, in just the way we have come so far: listening to what the Spirit has to teach us and showing as much compassion for each other as we can muster.
The fact that these “prophets” and church politicians have nothing better to do than invent ridiculous policies is a testament to the reality that they are NOT inspired; rather they are interested in control and avoiding the appearance of “not guiding the flock”. If only more people had the intestinal fortitude to stand up to these ludicrous and dogmatic religions. I would have loved to be a fly on the wall when you did it. Bravo!
Where there is no actual substance, external appearance becomes critical.
I want to make it clear — and not that anyone’s sugtesged otherwise — there was nothing anyone did yesterday that was hurtful. The guys in my elders quorum are great. They are always kind, warm, friendly, and those who know about my status are as supportive as they can be. It was the situation and my status as excommunicated, and my uncertainty about the appropriateness of sharing certain aspects of my story that were so painful to me.Abelard – Thanks for sharing the youtube link. Awesome video. That did make me cry. It isn’t about a “religion.” It’s about our relationship with Christ. That put it so perfectly. Thank you so much.
Good for you! I would love to have been there and said, “amen, sister” and walked out. I have since officially left the entire game Unfortunately the brainwashing goes wide and deep with a basis of fear that is hard to break. You are valiant, good, courageous and seem like a goddess…and you aren’t a mormon? OMG! It IS possible to leave and have a wonderful life. Thanks for doing the video.
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THANK YOU! What is not important takes away from what is.
Too much muck in their heads – too many rules to follow – Faith is so much more simple that that. When I sit in wonder and am overwhelmed by the majesty of the Lord, I am not thinking about my tights!
Loved your video..
You did an awesome thing by standing up for yourself and your daughter and who knows who else. The emperor really isn’t wearing any clothes. Good for you.
I’m a former LDS myself. I’m gonna give an honest opinion from the perspective of a young man with a strong libido. I’m not justifying what this bishop was doing but I have an idea of what was going on in his head.
From the perspective of women this can never be justified because women aren’t aroused by visual ques, they’re aroused emotionally. Male arousal is almost entirely the result of what he is seeing.
I’m currently attending college and everywhere I turn I see women walking around in the leggings. Women have to know that these hug every contour of the skin. It might as well be sprayed on body paint. Men are aroused by what they see. To say the least, I have trouble concentrating sometimes, because a large part of me wants to make something happen with these beautiful girls with great curves. And yes, my sex drive is what is calling me to do this, If they’d dress more modestly I might have an easier time focusing on what I’m going to college to learn.
I remember a young single adult activity I went to several years ago. It was a volleyball tournament. There were a couple of gorgeous young women who were wearing exotic print leggings. The whole time I was trying to reclaim enough of my focus and attention to manage to play volleyball with some degree of grace. Conscious effort can have very little effect on the effects of sexual tension that come from seeing a beautiful body. A man can’t not notice. I was fantasizing about these women for years afterward. You might say I have a thing for leggings, as must every heterosexual male who is being honest with himself. What’s not to like?
Well guess what, practicing Mormon men are often afraid of their libido and things that trigger their sexuality. This is the underlying motive spurring these Mormon seniors to draw attention to this fashion detail.
Being constantly enticed with visual sexual stimuli can be torture for men. For men, involuntary arousal occurs and it becomes sexual when there’s a lack of cover or there’s skin tight cover on the body. Of course men bury this arousal, as to not come off as a perv but the arousal doesn’t go away. Advanced stage feminism has to some extent convinced us to attempt to ignore this fact.
“I’m not justifying…” And then you go on to justify it.
If you’re that distracted by leggings or a body part, you have a fetish. It has nothing to do with being male or female or if you’re aroused by visuals or emotional stimuli. Women being aroused by emotions? That’s a lie. You, sir, fetishize females heavily because you were taught that they’re dirty, sexual, demented sex objects if they don’t wear thick sweaters and thick pants to hide the fact that they’re women and have female bodies.
Dude…seek psychotherapy NOW !!!
You are either a masterful troll, or a truly troubled person. Stop trying to place the responsibility to control yourself on others. If it were not against the law to rape are you afraid you would go on a raping spree? Do you avoid going swimming so you don’t have a risk of seeing a woman in a swimsuit and not being able to control your arousal?
I really hope you were just trolling, and not expecting all women you might come into contact with to work around your own personal issues.
I too am an ex mormon and I have a few simular stories. Women in TSCC are held responsible for mens “perverted” thoughts and to some extent their actions. For instance, a elderly man who thought was a grandfatherly type told my dad that my mom and mine legs were a temptation for him and we should wear longer skirts. I was 17. Yes men have urges as do women but Im not responsible for not tempting him with something as silly as lower legs just as I am not responsible should he touch me inappropriately which thankfully didnt happen. He used to sit with us in our pew which after that comment I shuddered in revulsion( due to the fact I didnt need to know someone who was old enough to be my grandpa was ogling me) and thank goodness he never sat with us again.
Also in the young single adult ward the bishop was telling us what was not appropriate and I was sitting with my bf. He said putting your hand on someones thigh is inappropriate. I quickly moved my hand off my bf’s thigh. I wish I would have had the guts to say something. For me it was as innocent as touching his shoulder or holding his hand but the bishop made it into something dirty. TSCC shames people into submission and makes women accountable for not only their own “sins” but also for mens thoughts and by extension his actions if she is dressed inappropriately. I wish I had the guts to say something at the time.
Sounds to me like the Bishop or other men, have a problem with being attracted to women’s legs. Anytime a man has a problem with a way a women looks and put blame or tries to dictate their dress, it means that is is the man who is having sexual problems that he can’t handle. And it is also a way to control women in the church.
Keep up the great work and producing in the crowd!